I do this, do you? Right now, I find myself justifying my right to be unhappy. Whaaat? In one of his podcasts, the late, great Dr. Wayne Dyer said something like, (and I’m paraphrasing): “Don’t fight for your suffering.”
When do you feel most confident? Think about it. I bet you feel most confident when you’ve familiar with something. When you’ve done it many times. The things you feel confident doing, you’ve been doing for years.
Are you feeling defensive? Do you feel defensive and angry all the time? Do you wish people behaved differently? Do you complain and blame others for ruining your day?