Do you find yourself struggling with difficult people? “He makes me so mad.” “My boss is difficult.” “She doesn’t understand me, she doesn’t listen.” “He’s such a narcissist.” Maybe your boss is always telling you what to do and doesn’t know how to give constructive feedback.
What do you believe about yourself as a designer? What do you think about you? Do you tell yourself you’re not good? Do you tell yourself other designers are better than you? Do you believe you’re not enough?
We can use the The Self Coaching Model to get things done and to take action now. We often don’t take action despite wanting to. Do these sound familiar? “Why can’t I find time to work on my passion project?”
I lost my mind I watched myself make up untrue stories in my head and became impatient because of my thoughts about “all the things that aren’t done.” I felt overwhelmed. I tried to change the situation and to control someone else.
The writer Donna Tartt, who’s published three novels in two decades, said in response to the question “Why do you take so long?”: “If you’re not enjoying it, you’re probably doing it too fast.” I love this thought. I’ve been thinking about how it can apply to our big goals.
We all want to work less, right? We often complain about the amount of work we need to do. And the shortage of time we have to do it. And we never have enough time for ourselves. Is it true? Yes and no. And here’s why. What work is necessary and what is self-imposed?
The best part of coaching creatives is I have the privilege of talking to designers every day. I hear many designers talk about passion projects that never get done and about believing things need to be done right or not at all.
This is where it starts. In your mind. Moving towards the life you want involves mind management. The first step is observing yourself by writing down your thoughts and feelings. Knowing what’s going on inside of your head provides information about your experiences in the external world. I know this firsthand.
I do this, do you? Right now, I find myself justifying my right to be unhappy. Whaaat? In one of his podcasts, the late, great Dr. Wayne Dyer said something like, (and I’m paraphrasing): “Don’t fight for your suffering.”